Most people will admit that they don't always feel 100%. Even the most beautiful and successful people have bad days, but when you're feeling really down, maybe you need a change of perspective.
Despite common belief, feeling more attractive and desirable may have little to do with your physical appearance.
We consulted scientific studies and spoke with relationship and dating experts to find them.Simple lifestyle changes you can make to appear more attractive to yourself and others.
These tips can help you see yourself in a more positive light.
Break the sweat.
You may be afraid of exercise, but it can go a long way in making you feel more attractive.
We're not just talking about the physical effects of exercise on your body—exercise is a great way to take time to release your aggression, make time for yourself, and release endorphins, a chemical that can improve your mood. A 2015 study from the University of Turku found that people who exercisereport an increase in confidence.
"Exercise is a great way to feel more attractive,"april machine, a relationship and etiquette expert, told INSIDER. "Not only are you giving yourself the gift of fitness, but you're also releasing endorphins and balancing work, play, and self-care."
Pay some compliments.
Getting a little love from others seems like the easiest way to improve your self-image, but in reality, you may want to practice giving yourself a little love first.
Talking about the positive qualities of others will make you appear more attractive to them and will also help them recognize the good things about you.Researchers at the China University of Electronic Science and Technology suggested this in a 2016 study.that men who complimented women with metaphors were seen as more attractive.
"learn wellpraisemaybe just the key to a second date", matchmakingDenise Levyhe said INSIDE. “If you make other people feel comfortable, you increase your attractiveness. People have a hard time preparing for a date, so make time for it.praisesomeone else and it means business!"
Put on a smile.
It's no secret that smiling makes you appear warm and welcoming to other people, which can contribute to how they see you. But it turns out that if you look in the mirror and smile at yourself, you might even reap the same benefits.
"As social beings, we're hardwired to notice the body language of others and look for cues of safety and welcome," says the relationship therapist, educator, and author.francis shadyhe said INSIDE. "SmilingIt's a universal sign of warmth, approachability, and attractiveness."
“But it works for you too; if yousmileWhen you look in the mirror, you receive neural signals very similar to what you would receive from a trusted friend.smiledon you," he said.
Researchers at Cardiff University in Wales in 2009examines how facial expressionsit can affect a person's mood, and evidence has been found that people who smile more may actually feel happier.
Talk to yourself in an encouraging way.
It's always nice when someone close to you notices or points out a good quality, but you don't have to wait for that extra boost.
It may sound silly, but repeating positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror or saying things you like about yourself will help you validate and appreciate these traits in yourself.
"Awareness is an exercise in intentional concentration," Francis said. “Whatever you focus your attention on will expand your field of consciousness. Taking the time to actively notice positive qualities about yourself, whether they are external traits or internal skills and qualities, will help make them more apparent to you. If you spend time acknowledging these qualities, you can experience them more fully."
A 2014 studyfrom the University of IllinoisThe study, published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, suggests that people who talk to themselves have greater professional success and greater self-confidence. The study also showed that people spend more energy saying the word "you" when referring to themselves.
Don't sabotage yourself.
a study ofThe National Institutes of Health found that people whoaddressed the negative aspectsabout themselves, in fact, they were at greater risk of self-doubt and possibly less complacency.
When you find yourself making negative statements about yourself, you need to pay close attention to why.These types of statements can make you feel worse and damage your own image.
psychologistjodi de lucarecommends that people find out what leads them to make these statements and eliminate the cause if they can.
"In particular, pay attention to what triggers self-sabotaging comments," he told INSIDER. "Is it a specific environment? Person? Situation? Once you identify negative self-talk triggers, you have a better chance of taking control of yourself, turning negative self-statements into positive ones, and even preventing them."
Evaluate your relationships with others.
The weight of a toxic person in your life can prevent you from feeling good.
2015Study in the "Journal of Ethics and Education"interviewed people who had a relationship in their life that exhibited characteristics of "alienation, change, false friendship, and false friendship." The study found that they were often unaware that others were putting them down and viewed toxic people through "rose-colored glasses," which can affect their mental health.
If there are people who constantly put you down, are rude to you, or simply have a negative impact on your self-esteem, try your best to eliminate these people from your life or spend less time with them.
The most important thing is to prioritize the people who spend their time supporting and building you up. You can instantly boost your confidence, De Luca said.
Have a sense of humor.
Laughing and joking can make you feel more relaxed. So if you try to laugh at something that would normally upset you, it might take some of the pressure off yourself, which could help you see yourself in a positive light.
"That's really important – some people take every aspect of their lives very seriously and it shows in their face and in their personality."alex reddel, online dating specialist, for INSIDER. "It's okay to be imperfect, no one needs to be perfect all the time. It's important not to let others define you and be yourself."
Playing games can also help others see you as more attractive.
A 2015 study from the University of Kansasdiscovered that laughing together can increase attraction in couples. In the study, 51 pairs of people who didn't know each other spoke; The more times a man tries to be funny, and the more times a woman laughs at his jokes, the more likely she is to become romantically interested in him.
The more the couple laughed, the greater the attraction they reported.
Having sex is a great, fun, and fairly easy way to improve your self-image.
People who had casual sex with a supportive partner were found to show higher confidence and self-esteem.according to a 2014 study in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science.
Also, the pheromones that you might release during and after sex.automatically draws people to you, which, according to a study from San Francisco State University, also makes you more attractive to them.
Make it count until it works
The easiest way to feel safe? Act like you already are.
If you challenge yourself to feel good, it will show and others will notice.
"The way you walk into a room or share a look is a sign that your confidence is working for you or against you," Levy said. "It's all about your smile, your body language, and even eye contact. If you're feeling awkward or awkward, people may feel that unease that is synonymous with whether or not they perceive you as attractive."
Do you need inspiration? A study published in 2013I am "Journal of Experimental Social Psychology"found that simply remembering a time when you were confident can boost your self-confidence.
Rock a little red.
Having a wardrobe you feel confident in goes a long way in improving your self-image, but feeling better about your appearance can be as simple as wearing a different color.
AA study from the University of Rochester suggeststhat wearing red automatically makes women more attractive to men. In the study, a woman in a red shirt was more likely to be asked than a woman in a green shirt.
Jen Thoden, founder of the Personal Styles siteyour color style, INSIDER said that red "represents passion, power and sensuality." She recommends that rocking red be taken more seriously and get a surge of empowerment.
Stand up straight.
Good posture can make you look good, but it can also make youTo feelIntestine.
AsStudy from the Association for Psychological Sciences foundthat sitting up makes you feel more confident and powerful. They found that people who did "power poses" spokeIncreased testosterone, decreased cortisol (a chemical found when you feel anxious), and increased feelings of power.
So if you're looking for a mood lift and want to see yourself in a more positive light, it may be worth keeping your head up, both physically and mentally.
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